Do it safely and enjoyably
Oral sex is something most people are curious about, but not many actually talk about it. Maybe you’ve tried it, maybe you’re just wondering what it’s all about, or maybe you want to know how to do it safely. Whatever the reason, it’s totally normal to have questions.
What Is Oral Sex?
Oral sex is when you use your mouth, lips or tongue to stimulate your partner’s genitals.
That can include:
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Cunnilingus, oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris
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Fellatio, oral stimulation of the penis
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Anilingus, aka rimming, oral stimulation of the anus
It can be part of foreplay or the main event. There are no rules. What matters is that everyone involved feels safe, respected and into it.
Why People Enjoy Oral Sex
There’s no denying that oral sex feels good. The mouth and tongue can create sensations that are softer and wetter. And more varied than hands or penetrative sex.
Oral sex can also be about:
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Intimacy. This is because you’re focusing completely on your partner, which builds trust and closeness.
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Connectedness, which is usually more personal and emotional than other kinds of sex.
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A great alternative because for some couples, it’s a way to be intimate without penetrative sex.
Still, many people have questions or concerns about safety or comfort, even though oral sex is common. Now let’s talk about that.
Is Oral Sex Safe?
It is safer than penetrative sex. But oral sex is not free from risks.
You can catch or pass on sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as:
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Herpes (HSV-1 or HSV-2)
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Gonorrhoea
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Chlamydia
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HPV (human papillomavirus)
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Syphilis
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HIV (though the risk is very low)
Many people assume you can’t get an STI through oral sex. This is false. The mouth, lips and throat can all carry infections. Tiny cuts or sores make it easier for viruses or bacteria to spread.
How to Have Safe Oral Sex
The good news is that you can enjoy oral sex safely by following a few simple steps.
1. Use Protection
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For oral sex on a penis, use a condom (flavoured ones make it a bit more fun).
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For oral sex on a vulva or anus, you can use a dental dam. This is a thin latex or polyurethane sheet that acts as a barrier.
If you don’t have one, you can cut open a condom to create a makeshift dam.
Brands like LifeStyles, Wetstuff and Pjur make quality condoms and lubricants. These are available in Australia. Wild Mart stocks these, so you don’t have to go hunting around awkwardly in stores.
2. Avoid if There Are Cuts or Sores
Cold sores, ulcers or small wounds in your mouth can increase STI risk. You have to wait until everything’s healed before engaging in oral sex again.
3. Practice Good Hygiene
Fresh breath, clean genitals and trimmed nails make everyone more comfortable. A quick rinse or shower beforehand can also go a long way.
4. Communicate
Don’t jump into things. Talk about what feels good, what doesn’t and what each of you is okay with. This is because consent and comfort are important.
Ways to Make Oral Sex More Enjoyable
It’s okay to feel unsure the first few times. Everyone’s different. And there’s no perfect or ideal way to do it. What matters most is listening to your partner’s cues. Body language says a lot more than words sometimes.
These are some simple tips:
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Take time. Start slow and build up. You don’t have to rush.
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Use your hands. They can add stimulation or help you find a rhythm.
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Use lube. Water-based lubes like Wetstuff or Pjur make everything smoother and more comfortable.
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Mix it up. Alternate between licking, sucking and gentle pressure to find what works best.
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Stay relaxed because if you’re tense, it’ll show. Go slow and enjoy yourself.
Sex Toys and Oral Sex
You are not limited to using your mouth. To make oral sex more thrilling, many couples use sex toys. It's a fantastic way to take turns giving and receiving pleasure.
Some ideas:
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Vibrating sex toys like the LELO Sona or Womanizer Premium during oral play can stimulate the clitoris.
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Satisfyer Pro products mimic suction. This makes oral play more intense.
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Tenga eggs or Aneros toys work wonders for penis or anal stimulation.
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Clone A Willy kits let you create a replica of your partner. It’s fun.
Wild Mart stocks all these sex toys in Australia. So if you’re curious, check out the range from LELO, Satisfyer, Womanizer, Wetstuff, LifeStyles, Tenga, Clone A Willy, Pjur and Aneros.
But you must always properly clean your toys and use fresh condoms if you’re switching between oral and penetrative play.
Common Worries
What if I don’t like how it tastes or smells?
This is normal. Hygiene helps, but you can also try minty lube, flavoured condoms or edible gels to make things more pleasant.
I’m scared I’ll do it wrong.
You can’t really do it wrong if you’re both enjoying it. Simply stay tuned to your partner’s reactions. If they’re happy, you’re doing great.
I’m worried about catching something.
That’s fair. So use protection. Get regular STI checks and talk openly with your partner about your sexual health.
What if my partner doesn’t like oral sex?
Everyone has different comfort levels. You must talk about boundaries and remember that sex should always be mutual. So no one should ever feel pressured.
Why Safe Oral Sex Matters
Oral sex is a part of healthy and normal sexuality. But it’s not something to take lightly. Staying safe shows respect to your body and your partner’s. Protection and communication make it more relaxed and more enjoyable.
And, being smart about it now saves you a lot of awkward clinic visits later.
Knowing What You’re Doing Gives You Confidence
Oral sex is about connection and exploration. When you know what it is, how to keep it safe, and how to make it fun for you and your partner, you may approach it without fear.
So, take your time finding what makes you feel happy. And don’t be afraid to use the right tools (anything from condoms to sex toys) to make your experience even better.
If you’re looking for sexual wellness safely and confidently, you can check out Wild Mart’s range of sex toys in Australia from trusted brands like LELO, Satisfyer, Womanizer, Wetstuff, LifeStyles, Tenga, Clone A Willy, Pjur and Aneros.
It’s your pleasure, so take it at your pace. But make it safe, clean and consensual.
