Tips to Last Longer in Bed
Lasting longer in bed is something most blokes and women have wondered about at least once. Maybe you’ve been stressed, overexcited or just had a big night. Whatever the reason, you’re definitely not alone.
The good news is that lasting longer isn’t about being a ‘sex god’. It’s about learning your body, your partner and a few tried-and-true tricks. Even if you’re after a confidence boost, a bit more control or a longer-lasting romp, this post will break down exactly how to do it.
Why You Might Finish Too Fast
Before you fix the problem, it helps to understand what’s actually happening. There’s no one specific reason why someone doesn’t last long in bed. It’s usually a mix of body and mind.
These are a few common culprits:
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Performance anxiety, which is worrying about ‘how long’ you’ll last. This can ironically make you finish faster.
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Overstimulation. Sometimes things feel too good, too soon.
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Lack of experience or control.
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Stress or lifestyle factors like too much caffeine, alcohol or not enough sleep. This can mess with your body’s rhythm.
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Medical reasons like premature ejaculation or erectile issues can also play a role. They’re more common than you think.
Understanding what’s behind it is the first step toward finding what works for you.
Tip #1: Slow It Down, Mate
If you’re looking for longer sex, pacing is everything. Most people rush straight into penetration and that’s like sprinting before stretching. You need to take it slow and easy. Take time with foreplay. Explore or tease your partner’s body.
The thing is, the longer you build up arousal, the less pressure you’ll feel to ‘perform’. This also helps your partner feel more connected and turned on. So everyone wins.
Next time, you can try to spend at least 10 to 15 minutes on foreplay before even thinking about penetration. Tease, kiss, touch or grab a toy from Wild Mart and turn things up.
Best foreplay toys to try:
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LELO Sona 2 Cruise is superb for clitoral stimulation.
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Tenga Flip Orb is a great stroker for solo or partnered play.
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Satisfyer Pro 2 is the one if you know, you know.
Tip #2: Master the Stop-Start Technique
This classic trick is exactly what it sounds like. When you’re getting close to finishing, stop what you’re doing, take a few deep breaths and let the feeling settle down. Then start again.
You can do this during solo play to practice control or with your partner during sex. Over time, your body learns to recognise when you’re nearing climax and how to hold off.
Tip #3: Try the Squeeze Technique
This may sound weird, but it works. When you feel like you’re about to climax, gently squeeze just below the head of your penis or ask your partner to help. This reduces blood flow slightly and helps stop the orgasm.
It might not be the sexiest move mid-action, but it’s a good training method. Especially if you’re practising solo.
Tip #4: Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor
Yep, it’s not only for women. Strong pelvic muscles help control ejaculation and make your orgasms more intense.
How you can do it:
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Find your pelvic muscles, try stopping your pee mid-flow.
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Squeeze those muscles for 5 seconds, then relax for 5.
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Repeat 10-15 times a day.
It’s simple and works wonders over time.
Tip #5: Warming Up Shouldn’t be Skipped
Good sex is physical exercise. And like any exercise, a little warming up really helps. You can try all the foreplay: light touches, kissing, massages, sex toys. All of these will help build arousal. It will be gradual, where you won’t be jumping straight to the finish line.
There are many options to make forplay fun. You can try lubricants like Wetstuff Gold or Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant. These promote control and comfort.
Tip #6: Focus on Your Partner
If you're thinking too much about lasting longer, it will most likely backfire. So, relax. Focus on something else. Ask yourself what feels good for your partner right now? How are they reacting?
When you tune into their pleasure instead of your timing, your own excitement becomes more manageable. And your connection deepens.
Tip #7: Bring in Some Toys
Sex toys are not only for solo play. They’re trump cards for couples who want longer sex and more variety.
These are a few toys that make a big difference:
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Aneros Trident Series
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Womanizer Premium 2
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Clone A Willy Kit
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Tenga Egg Masturbators
You can find all these brands at Wild Mart Australia.
Tip #8: Sort Out the Mind Stuff
Sex isn’t just physical; it’s 80% mental. If anxiety or stress is ruining your rhythm, it might be time to address that.
Try:
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Breathing exercises before sex.
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Regular exercise to boost endorphins.
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Talking openly with your partner about what you both enjoy.
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See a sexual health therapist if it’s a recurring issue.
Tip #9: Change Positions
Some positions are naturally more stimulating (like missionary or doggy), which can make you finish faster. You can try switching to ones that give you more control, like spooning.
This gives you a break while keeping the connection strong.
You can also try a cock ring (like the ones from LELO) to help maintain your erection and slow down climax.
Tip #10: Give it a Practice
Solo sessions are good practice. This can help you to masturbate without the need to rush. To do this, you can use the stop-start technique.
This will help train your body to handle stimulation better. And you can learn more about your preferences.
When to Get Professional Help
If you’ve tried all this and still find it hard to last longer, don’t tough it out alone. A General Practitioner or a sexual health specialist can rule out underlying causes. And will suggest treatments such as therapy or medication.
There is absolutely nothing embarrassing about it. This is like seeing a physio for muscle pain. Sex is part of your overall well-being.
The Bottom Line
Learning how to last longer in bed is not about pressure or performance. It’s about connection and confidence. Everyone’s body is different, but with a few changes to your routine, some handy sex toys from Wild Mart and the right mindset, you will find your rhythm.
Because great sex is not about lasting forever. It’s about making every moment count.
Quick Recap:
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Slow down and focus on foreplay
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Practice stop-start or squeeze techniques
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Strengthen your pelvic floor
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Try new positions and toys
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Keep anxiety in check
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Communicate with your partner
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