Where Is the Clitoris?

How to stop guessing and start pleasing

The clitoris has been the most talked-about yet misunderstood body part in history.
For something that brings people with vulvas their orgasms, it sure gets ignored a lot.

So, if you’ve ever whispered the question Where is the clitoris?, like it’s a top-secret code, don’t stress. You’re about to become an expert, minus the awkward diagrams and weird scientific jargon.

Let’s talk about what it actually is, where it lives, what it looks like and how to show it the attention it deserves.

What Is a Clitoris?

The clitoris is the control centre for pleasure.

It’s a small organ containing an average of 10,281 nerve fibres (stats from Healthline Media), which is way more than what a penis has. So, it’s that sensitive.

But here’s the thing. The bit you can see, that little nub or button at the top of the vulva, is only the tip of the iceberg. Most of the clitoris is actually inside the body and shaped kind of like a wishbone.

It has:

A glans (the visible part you can see and touch)
A shaft (under the skin)
Two crura (legs that extend down along the vaginal canal)

So next time someone says ‘It’s small’, you can proudly say ‘Mate, it’s huge. It’s just undercover.’

What Does a Clitoris Look Like?

From the outside, the visible clitoris, the glans, looks like a tiny pearl or button tucked under the clitoral hood, a small fold of skin at the top of the vulva.

It can look slightly different for everyone. Some are more visible while others are shy and tucked in. The size, colour and shape all vary, and that’s very normal.

It’s like noses. They’re all a bit different, all beautiful and all work fine.

Inside, though, it totals about 9-12 cm long, branching out into two curved legs that wrap around the vaginal walls.

So when someone says ‘it’s all connected,’ they’re not kidding. And stimulation anywhere along those nerve pathways can create intense pleasure.

How to Find the Clitoris

Okay, time for directions.

The first step is to get comfortable.

If you’re exploring your own body, you can grab a mirror and take a good look.
If you’re exploring someone else’s, talk to them because consent and communication make everything better and hotter.

This is the roadmap:

Look between the outer lips (labia majora).
Then gently part the inner lips (labia minora).
At the very top, where the inner lips meet, you’ll see a small bump or hood. That’s the clitoral hood.
Underneath that hood is the clitoris.

If you touch it lightly and the person jumps, giggles or swears softly. Congratulations, you’ve found it.

How to Stimulate the Clitoris

Now that you’ve found it, it’s time to learn how to make friends with it.

The clitoris is sensitive, so less is more at first.

It’s very similar to starting a car in winter. Gentle and warm-up strokes are needed before flooring the accelerator.

One way to do it:

1. Start Slow

Use your fingers or your tongue and go on light and circular motions.
And don’t poke it like a doorbell.

2. Use Lube

Friction can be pleasure’s greatest enemy.
So some Wetstuff or Pjur lube keeps things smooth and comfy.
And if you’re using toys, lube’s a must.

3. Experiment with Pressure

Some clitorises like feather-light touch and others prefer a bit of pressure.
Ask what feels good or pay attention to how the body responds.

4. Try Sex Toys

If you want next-level, sex toys are your best mates.
You’ve got options galore in sex toys Australia, especially at Wild Mart.

These are a few favourites:

Satisfyer Pro 2
Womanizer Premium 2
LELO SONA™ 2

5. Use Vibrations Wisely

Vibrators can make the clitoris sing, but don’t go full blast right away.
Start with lower settings and build up because it’s about teasing and not torture.

Common Clitoris Myths

Let’s clear up some popular nonsense that’s been floating around forever.

Myth 1: The clitoris is just a tiny dot.
No. It’s a whole organ that’s mostly internal.
Myth 2: Penetration alone gives orgasms.
Most people actually need direct or indirect clitoral stimulation.
Myth 3: It’s the same for everyone.
Every clitoris is unique. What feels amazing for one person can be meh for another.
Myth 4: It’s hard to find.
Once you know what you’re looking for, it’s literally right there.

Why the Clitoris Needs Attention

For years, mainstream sex education completely ignored it.
Even some anatomy textbooks left it out.
Which explains why generations of people grew up thinking pleasure was a mystery.

But the truth is, understanding the clitoris is more than sex; it’s about body confidence and better relationships. Even equality in pleasure. Knowing how it works helps you communicate what feels good, explore new sensations and ditch the awkward guessing games.

And for partners, it’s the key to being a better lover. One who listens and pays attention.

Tips for Better Clitoral Orgasms

Alright, this is a cheat sheet for clitoral pleasure, which is usable with or without a partner.

Solo Play

Use a mirror and your fingers to explore.
Try a LELO, Satisfyer or Womanizer toy brands for added intensity.
Mix up motions of circles, taps, up-and-down and side-to-side.
Lube up with Wetstuff or Pjur for a smoother ride.

Partner Play

Talk about what feels good before and during.
Start slow. Try kissing, teasing, touching, licking or whatever to build anticipation.
Combine clitoral stimulation with penetration for blended orgasms.
Use couple-friendly toys like massagers, vibrators or couple rings.

Aftercare

Clean toys with warm water and soap. You can use a toy cleaner, too.
Be relaxed, hydrated and enjoy that post-orgasm glow.
Maybe go for round two without rush or pressure.

More On Sex Toys

If you want to explore, Wild Mart has everything ready.
Whether you’re dipping your toes into self-pleasure or shopping with your partner, there’s a toy for every mood and experience level.

You can start with Satisfyer if you want gentle and hands-free air-pulse stimulation. It’s like being teased by a breeze that somehow knows exactly what you want.

Womanizer is more for a luxury feel that’s whisper-quiet but incredibly powerful.

LELO has brilliant designs and is ideal if hot vibes are your thing. LELO is the class act of the sex toy world. Everything’s all elegance.

You can also have fun with Tenga or Aneros. They’re epic for exploring new sensations.

Also, if you’re feeling bold. Clone A Willy lets you create your own personalised toy. It’s as hilarious as it is satisfying.

And don’t forget your essentials. Wetstuff and Pjur lubes are for smooth play and LifeStyles condoms for safe and stressless fun.

Each brand is designed with your pleasure and comfort. And Wild Mart is your one-stop shop for quality sex toys Australia.