Curious about how to ride a dildo perfectly? You’re in good company, and this guide walks you through everything on using a dildo
Loads of people buy a toy, get excited to try it. And then suddenly realise they don’t know where to start, how to get comfortable or what dildo positions actually work for their body.
The good news is that you don’t need to be an expert. You don’t need experience. And you definitely don’t need to follow anything you’ve watched online.
We’ll cover:
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how to choose the right dildo
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how to use a dildo comfortably
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beginner-friendly dildo positions
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common issues and how to fix them
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tips for confidence
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levelling up tips
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safety and hygiene
Let’s get into it.
1. Picking the Right Dildo Makes a HUGE Difference
If you want to know how to ride a dildo perfectly, this is where it starts.
Most discomfort, weird angles, frustration or this doesn’t feel right moments come from using the wrong toy.
Below is how you could choose your dildo:
Size
Go smaller if you’re new.
Most people overestimate what they need. And they end up with a toy which feels too big, firm or intense.
A beginner-friendly size gives you:
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better control
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smoother movement
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easier positioning
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less pressure or strain
You can always move up later.
Material
Always go for body-safe silicone. Wild Mart stocks proper medical-grade options that are:
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smooth
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non porous
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easy to clean
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comfortable
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long lasting
Cheap rubber or jelly toys often smell weird, feel sticky and can cause irritation. Not worth it.
Firmness
A slightly flexible dildo is much easier to work with, especially for beginners.
These shapes according to your body. And don’t force your body to shape around it.
Base
Make sure the dildo has a strong and sturdy base. It is important if you’re planning to use a suction cup or want hands free positioning.
A good toy is a good experience. It’s as simple as that.
2. How to Insert a Dildo Comfortably
Not many talk about this part enough. But preparation is the real secret to comfort and confidence. It makes using a dildo smoother, safer and 10x more enjoyable.
Relax your body
It feels stiff or uncomfortable when you’re tense.
When this happens, you need to take a timeout to chill. Stretch your hips. Loosen your lower back. Anything that works for you.
Use lube
Even if you remember nothing else, you must not forget that lube is essential.
Water-based lube is best for silicone toys.
Add more lube if it starts feeling dry or draggy.
Friction is discomfort. Lube is comfort.
Start slow
There’s no rush. Your body needs time to warm up and adjust to pressure and settle into the movement.
Going slow at the start always leads to a better experience overall.
3. Beginner-Friendly Dildo Positions
Positions matter. And not for ‘performance’ but for comfort and control. It helps you ease into it.
These options can help keep your body in charge and help you find angles that feel natural.
Position 1: The On-Top Method (Best for Full Control)
This is the easiest dildo position for beginners because you control everything. The angle, movement, pressure, rhythm.
The dildo stays still and your body does the moving.
This works because:
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super stable
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easy to adjust mid-movement
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great visibility and control
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low chance of discomfort
You can also use your hands to guide angles if needed.
Position 2: Pillow Support (This is Comfortably Stable)
To do this, grab a firm pillow. And place it under your hips or lower back. So this lifts your body slightly. It gives you better alignment. And your movements feel smoother. All with less effort.
Perfect if you:
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have tight hips
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get lower back tension
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need extra support
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prefer gentle and controlled movements
It’s simple but extremely effective.
Position 3: Suction-Cup Stability (Hands-Free Ease)
Suction-cup dildos are legends for stability. Stick them on:
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bathroom tiles
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a chair
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the shower wall
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a smooth floor
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the side of the bath
This option frees up your hands and lets you experiment with angles without worrying about the toy shifting.
Position 4: Side-Lying (Relaxingly Zero Strain)
Side-lying is one of the comfiest positions. Try it if you prefer gentle movement.
This position relaxes your body. It reduces strain on your hips and lower back.
It’s superb for those who want:
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a gentler angle
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easy control
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a relaxed vibe
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slow movement
4. Common Problems When Using a Dildo
Your body is telling you something when it feels uncomfortable. So don’t power through.
These are some common issues and how to solve them:
It feels too intense
Slow down.
Add more lube.
Switch to a smaller or softer toy.
The angle feels wrong
Try tilting your hips or switching positions.
Tiny angle changes make a huge difference.
It feels dry or sticky
Add more lube because dryness is the #1 cause of discomfort.
I can’t get a nice rhythm
Try holding the dildo in place and letting your body do the moving.
This gives you control without forcing awkward movements.
I feel embarrassed or awkward
This is extremely common and totally normal.
Lower the pressure on yourself. You’re not ‘performing.’
You’re exploring what feels good for you.
5. Confidence Tips for Dildo Users
Take your time
Rushing creates tension. Tension creates discomfort.
Focus on comfort first
Pleasure follows comfort. Never the other way around.
Set the mood your way
Clean space and comfy pillows with soft lighting. It all helps.
Forget ‘perfect’
There’s no perfect technique; the title’s for SEO. Comfort is the real goal. And the only rule is what feels good for your body.
6. Levelling When You're Ready
When you’re comfortable, you can play with:
A suction cup for hands-free stability
Great for experimenting with pace and angle.
Firmer silicone
Some people love a bit more structure once they’re used to the movement.
Harness use
Adds more stability and gives you more control over direction.
Different shapes
Curved toys, slim toys, thicker toys and more. Each one hits differently.
7. Cleaning Dildos
Aftercare keeps your toy safe and your body healthy.
Clean your dildo properly
Clean with warm water. Use soap and a toy cleaner.
Dry it before storing.
Store dildos safely
Put it in a pouch or toy box. Away from dust and other toys that cause reactions.
Check on your body
You could feel irritation or soreness. So go slower next playtime with more lube.
Take a moment to relax
Hydrate or stretch. Or just chill for a bit.
Aftercare helps your body settle.
So, How to Ride a Dildo Perfectly? Listen to Your Body.
If you came here wanting to know how to ride a dildo perfectly, here is the answer:
The ‘perfect’ way is the way that feels good and comfortable, and safe for your body.
It’s not rushed. Not forced. Not what someone else says you should do.
So focus on:
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the right toy
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the right position
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the right pace
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proper lube
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comfort over performance
And you’ll get there naturally.
Wild Mart has a huge range of beginner-friendly dildos, suction-cup toys, soft silicone designs and body-safe materials to help you ride your dildo positions.
