A Beginner’s Guide for Curious Aussies
So you’re wondering how to use sex toys, but don’t know where to start? Don’t stress because many people are in the same boat. If you’re curious, nervous, single, partnered up or looking for better orgasms, this post will walk you through exactly how to use sex tools without the awkwardness, confusion or ‘am I doing it wrong?’ panics.
What are sex toys?
Sex toys are anything designed to add pleasure and can be used solo or with a partner. They’re not weird, dirty or ‘only for certain people’. They’re simple tools for fun, like lube, massage oil or porn.
Some people use toys:
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To explore their body
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To boost confidence
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To spice up their relationship
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To help with low libido or stress
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To reach orgasm more easily
And yes, they’re totally normal, which is why sex toys Australia-wide are more popular than ever.
Common fears
Let’s call out the awkward stuff most beginners think but don’t say:
‘What if it hurts?’
You go slow, use lube and pick a beginner toy. Pain doesn’t belong here.
‘Will my partner judge me?’
Most partners are into it, especially when it means more pleasure for both of you.
‘I’ve never used anything like that before!’
Great! That means no bad habits to undo.
‘Are sex toys safe?’
If you buy from proper brands (like the ones at WildMart), they’re body-safe and tested.
‘Where do I even start?’
Right here. You’re doing it.
Types of sex toys
Here are the easiest sex toys for beginners, which require no overthinking.
Vibrators
What they are: Classic toys that vibrate to stimulate nerves.
How to use: Mostly external use on clit, nipples, inner thighs and perineum. Some vibrators are designed for penetration.
Beginner tips: Start on the lowest setting. Place it near your clit first and slowly move it to find your sweet spot.
Bullet vibrators
What they are: Tiny and discreet vibes. Usually about the size of a lipstick.
How to use: Great for clit stimulation, nipples or adding a little buzz to foreplay. It can also be used on erogenous zones like the inner thighs or perineum.
Beginner tips: Because they’re small, they’re less intimidating. Great first toy to test vibration levels without committing to a larger device.
Clit air-pulse toys
What they are: Innovative toys that use gentle suction or pulsation instead of traditional vibration.
How to use: Hover it over the clit (no need to press). It can also be used over nipples for curiosity.
Beginner tips: Start on the lowest intensity. Use lube if needed for a smoother glide. Suitable for solo play or adding during partner play.
Wands
What they are: Powerful, usually larger vibrators for external use.
How to use: Glide over clit, vulva, nipples or even use on your back and thighs for erotic massage.
Beginner tips: Start with the lowest. They’re strong, so don’t press hard initially and let the toy do the work.
Dildos
What they are: Non-vibrating or vibrating phallic penetration toys.
How to use: Works solo or with a partner for vaginal or anal penetration.
Beginner tips: Begin small, especially for anal play and use lots of lube.
Cock rings
What they are: Rings for the base of the penis, and in most cases, they vibrate.
How to use: Wear it over the penis when erect. Can be used alone or during penetration. Some have bullets for clit stimulation for your partner.
Beginner tips: Stretchy silicone rings are best for first-timers. Don’t leave on longer than 20-30 minutes.
Masturbators
What they are: Sleeves or textured devices for penis owners.
How to use: Slide the penis or stimulate the prostate for intense orgasms.
Beginner tips: Apply lube inside the sleeve before putting it on, then start from the lowest option and slowly increase the intensity.
Butt toys
What they are: These toys are made for anal play. These are also called anal plugs, beads, and prostate toys.
How to use: Apply lube and insert it slowly into the anus without forcing. You can go solo and couple up.
Beginner tips: Take it easy, start small and pick toys with a flared base. Never use a toy designed only for vaginal use in the anus.
Lube & Accessories
What they are: These are not toys but are essential for smooth, safe toy play.
How to use: It’s to be applied before and during toy play. Water-based lube is toy-friendly for all materials, while silicone lube is silky but not for silicone toys.
Beginner tips: Always have some on hand, even for external play. It’s the unsung hero of beginner sex toy fun.
How to choose your first toy
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What body part do you want to play with? Is it clit, penis, butt or nipples? This makes choosing easy.
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Choose one with power levels so you can start with lower intensity, then work up.
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Always go for safe materials like silicone, stainless steel or ABS plastic.
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Solo or with a partner? Vibes, bullets and cock rings work well in bed with someone.
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Opt for trusted brands like LELO, Satisfyer, Womanizer, Tenga, LifeStyles, Clone A Willy, Aneros, Wetstuff and Pjur.
How to use sex toys
Step 1: Start slow and set the mood
You don’t need candles and music; simply being relaxed is enough.
Step 2: Use lube
Even if it's for external or internal play, silicone or water-based lube will make everything smoother.
Step 3: Touch before you buzz
Use your hands first to see what feels good. Then bring the toy in gently.
Step 4: Test the settings
Start on the lowest vibration. Place it near the area and don’t press straight away.
Step 5: Move, don’t shove
Circle, hover, glide: there’s no right or wrong. You’re not drilling for oil.
Step 6: Solo sex with toys
Try:
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Vibrator on the clit
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Bullet on nipples or inner thighs
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Masturbator sleeve on the penis
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Small plug or prostate toy with lube
Step 7: With a partner
Here’s how to sex with toys together:
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Use a vibe on the clit during penetration
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Try a cock ring to boost stamina
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Add a wand for foreplay
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Use a Tenga toy on him while you kiss
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Have them control the toy if you’re into it
Safety tips
Clean it before and after use
Warm water and soap or a toy cleaner.
Never share toys without cleaning
Or use condoms on them if swapping partners.
Use the right lube
Silicone toys need water-based lube, not silicone lube.
Charge properly
Don’t use dodgy USBs. Most toys come with safe cables.
If it’s painful, you must stop
Sex toys should feel good, not like a gym injury.
Trying sex toys doesn’t mean you’re broken, desperate, kinky or “too much”. It means you’re curious and that’s hot.
There’s no right way to use sex toys; only your way. Start small, go slow, use lube, laugh if you muck it up, and don’t stress if it takes a few tries to find your thing.
When you’re ready to give it a go, scroll through the beginner toys at Wild Mart and pick something that makes you want to do it.
